Rachel Dasendran and Michael Borchuk
October 5, 2018
Romantic & Indoor Forest
Grey, Copper, & White
How They Met
Rachel and Mike met in their first year at university. Rachel saw Mike sitting by himself in the cafeteria and thought he could use some company. She does admit, however, “I obviously thought he was cute, so I wasn’t completely pure in my intentions.” We don’t blame you, Rachel.
In the summer of 2017, the couple travelled together to Portugal. Under a sunny sky when the pair arrived at the beautiful St. Geronimo’s Monastery, Mike took Rachel to a secluded garden where he popped the question. Rachel, of course, said yes!
When it was time to get down to planning their big day, the two most important parts for the couple were food and family. “We both have large families and a ton of close friends, so it was definitely difficult to pare down our list – and in the end, we had just over 300 of our closest friends and family.” Rachel did stress that while 300 may be large for some, 300 is pretty intimate for a South Asian wedding.
Another essential aspect of planning was to cater to both Mike’s European heritage and Rachel’s South Asian heritage. The pair knew that combining these cultures when it came to cuisine would be a challenge. Rachel explained that the pair wanted to, “find the right menu which incorporated the best of both worlds!” It ended up being with the help of Chef Ramana and their wedding planners at Beyond the Limits, and the Arlington Estate, that they created the perfect fusion menu for their guests!
Their Big Day
Unlike many brides, Rachel found herself surprisingly relaxed when she had to walk down the aisle. “I just wanted to get to the front as quickly as possible, so I could sit next to my groom,” she explained. Mike, on the other hand? He was nervous: sweaty palms, fidgety fingers, the works. Rachel told us that, “When my father handed me over to him, there was even a tear… which is rare for him.” Considering how radiant Rachel was in her gown, we get it.
When Rachel and Mike exchanged their vows, it was a beautiful experience for the couple. Something that was incredibly special, and interesting, for Rachel was when Mike tied the thaali around her. Explaining the thaali to us, Rachel said, “In Tamil culture, a thaali signifies marriage in the form of a gold chain with two golden coins.” It is similar to a wedding band. “When Mike tied the thaali around me, it felt like two worlds forming into one – my South Asian Heritage, and my Canadian nationality.”
One thing that made their day special was that “Instead of cutting into a wedding cake, we had a 7-tiered wedding pie. Mike’s mother is a phenomenal baker, and Mike insisted on having pie instead of cake at our wedding. I love cake, so I was hesitant at first, so we compromised, and we had the wedding pie be the pie that we cut into, and have cake surrounding the pie – that we got the best of both worlds!”
Rachel thinks that her favourite moment during the ceremony was watching her now-husband tear up when her dad thanked him at the altar. Also, she says, “Putting my hands in his definitely was a memorable moment.” After the ceremony, they had fireworks, which was the perfect way to end the celebrations.
Advice for Couples
Rachel and Mike want other couples to know that they don’t have to take it too seriously. “It’s a celebration of your love, so it’s really one big party with your family and friends. It’s easy to get carried away in minute details like what shade of grey should the linens be, or if the flowers should be ivory or egg-shell white, but at the end of the day, people won’t remember that.”
They also stress that it is important to focus on one another, and the elements that matter most to you – the rest will come together just fine. Also, hire a great wedding planner!
Congratulations Rachel and Michael!
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